I’ve long suspected that David and I have been the subject of discussion amongst some family and friends of family but paranoia isn’t my thing so I haven’t thought much about it. Today I received confirmation that it is, indeed, happening. Things from my blog and our MySpace pages have been shared and talked about with people who don’t read either one.
None of what David and I write about is a secret or we wouldn’t have posted in the first place. However, to share little bits and pieces, sometimes completely out of context, with people who aren’t getting the whole picture can be highly misleading. But the really disheartening part of all this is that the people who are gossiping about us are Christians and none have seen fit to talk to us about these things personally.
I don’t share much about my faith here for a variety of reasons, although I don’t hide the fact I’m a Christian. There is mention of church activities, pictures of our church taken at the Christmas Eve service, and on the sidebar is one of those “blinkie” things that says, “Prayer Changes Things”, which is something my grandmother has always had handwritten on a piece of paper and taped to her bedroom mirror. My faith is deep and unwavering. It defines who I am but it’s not something I feel I have to constantly advertise in my speech, writing, or with bumper stickers on my car. Anyone who takes the time to really know me will see God in my life. If they don’t, all the “Bible talk” and “Honk if you love Jesus” bumper stickers in the world wouldn’t mean a thing.
Part of the problem is that Christians don’t all agree about everything. We allow way too many issues to cause dissension and division amongst us. We’ve even allowed politics to become a means of judging who is the “better” Christian.
I know that one of the things being talked about is the fact that David and I occasionally consume alcohol and even (gasp) go to bars (our dear friends in New Orleans play in a band in a bar and we love listening to them play the music from our high school days)! I grew up in a family of teetotalers and in a church tradition that believes that even drinking a glass of wine with one’s dinner is sinful. But the thing is, not all Christian denominations share that view. David and I happen to be Presbyterian and there is no such belief within that denomination as a whole. It’s perfectly fine to have different beliefs on this but to judge someone’s walk with the Lord based upon your interpretation of this is wrong.
In fact, it is impossible to accurately judge the heart of a person by outward things alone, whether that be one’s clothing, music preferences, hair styles, etc. More to the point, it isn’t our job to judge another’s relationship with God at all. Unfortunately, we have recently had two tragic situations in our own small town in which men whom everyone considered to be fine, upstanding Christian leaders will now spend many years in jail for child molestation. Both were ordained Baptist ministers and leaders in their churches. They probably didn’t even drink. I’ll bet that if, a year ago, you had talked to anyone in their churches or amongst their close friends and relatives about these men you would have heard high praises for their godly nature and close walk with God. I’m in no way making light of these horrible situations but merely making the point that we cannot know what is in another’s heart.
I’m not sure if I should post this or not. On the one hand, David and I are totally secure in our faith and completely at peace with our personal choices. We really don’t care what others think. But on the other hand, perhaps this will make those who have been doing the gossiping think about what they are doing. Is it helpful? Is anything good likely to come about as a result? We tend to prefer to focus on “the big sins” while conveniently forgetting that God’s word cautions us against gossiping quite vigorously.
So, now that I’ve got that off my chest, let’s move on. I’ve got recipes to share, before and after pictures of decluttering projects to show you, and sooner or later there will be yet another story of some goofy rural experience to regale you with.