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French Friday ~ Food: A Collective Ritual

July 17, 2010 By Deanna Piercy 4 Comments

One of the ways in which the French tend to differ from the typical American is in the way food is approached.  While “bigger, faster, easier” seems to be the slogan here in America, the French are more likely to savor moderate portions of well-prepared food in a leisurely manner. 

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French Friday
Food: A Collective Ritual

 

While some of us are indeed self-avowed foodies, France is an entire nation of such.  Fresh ingredients, real butter, fabulous bread and cheeses, wine…all consumed mindfully and with great enjoyment.  This is the difference between eating and dining. 

“The French girl lives the sit-down, stay-seated, savor-every-bite life.  Food anchors her in a collective ritual that is one of the backbones of civilization: the coming together over food, the baking and breaking of bread, the communion, the conversation.  Dining together is almost a national religion, and at regular intervals you can almost hear the collective scrape of chairs as the French sit down to a meal at roughly the same time all over the country.  Work life comes to a screeching halt.  Heavy shutters clank shut like steel curtains as merchants retire for lunch breaks that, in some cases, can last up to three seriously gratifying hours.  Sunday meals are often day-long affairs (and since everything is closed in France on Sunday, what else is there to do but eat?) and wine glasses are clinked together all over the country — Santé! — which is as close as the French get to saying a national grace.” (Entre Nous, pgs. 102-103)

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I enjoy preparing (and eating!) delicious meals and other than dinner out on a Friday or Saturday night, and lunch at our favorite Mexican restaurant after church on Sundays, we are not generally inclined to eat out. 

When our children were young we sat down at the table together every night but as they became teenagers we all too often ate dinner in the family room with the television on.  Not every night, and we did eat together, but it’s a habit I wish I had never allowed to get started. 

Our adult son, Chris, lives in our guest house and eats dinner with us most weeknights.  We usually eat in the family room and watch The Daily Show together.  I’m not entirely sure I want to change that because it does engender some good discussions.  However, I’m going to try to “eat French” on the nights when it’s just David and myself. 

In honor of “French Friday” I decided to make today a special one.  I have some mini-croissants in the freezer so I heated two of them, topped with real butter (no margarine allowed in this house – ever) and some of my homemade blackberry preserves.  I put my fruit juice in a crystal goblet.  Café au lait rounded out my light, French-style breakfast and I even used my lovely fleur de lis dishes which we recently purchased in New Orleans. 

 
 
 
I forgot to take  photo of lunch and quite frankly, it wasn’t anything special.  I had a sandwich of sliced cheddar cheese and homemade bread and butter pickles on potato bread.  Alongside were a few Kettle chips and some red grapes.  I did indulge in a small piece of homemade banana pumpkin bread for dessert.
 
After lunch, I went to town and got an hour-long massage, something I’ve been meaning to do for months.  Ahh…bliss.  I picked up a few grocery items, stopped at the butcher for a roast and headed home.  I cut up carrots, potatoes, onion, and garlic and placed them around the seasoned roast in a baking pan.  The vegetables were drizzled with a bit of extra virgin olive oil and I poured some leftover red wine in the bottom of the pan.  I covered it with foil and placed in a slow oven for about 2 1/2 hours.  
 
It was still cooking when David arrived home from work so we relaxed and chatted about our days.  When the roast was almost done I cut up zucchini, yellow squash, bell pepper and green onion then sautéed them in olive oil, adding just a touch of organic brown sugar toward the end of the cooking time to help caramelize them a bit.  A tossed green salad and glasses of wine completed the meal. 
 
Since Chris is out of town, I set the table for the two of us and even lit candles, though it was still light outside.  We enjoyed a leisurely meal and relaxed conversation for probably 45 minutes.  Not the couple of hours that the French might spend on the evening meal but certainly better than the 15 minutes that many Americans spend gobbling down dinner.  It was so nice and made me all the more determined to make this a regular weekly event. 
 
 
 

What about you?  Do you eat as a family at the table?  Do you take your time or are you in a hurry to get to the next item on your agenda? 

 

More French Friday posts…

The Musings of a Francophile

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  1. Stephenie says

    July 17, 2010 at 4:01 am

    Looks splendid 🙂

    With two young children, dinner is often what I can throw in the rice cooker/ steamer or the crockpot intermittently while chasing the kids around. We also have a hard time taking the time to enjoy in our house because my son has extensive food allergies and it really limits our diets. (Well I could make big, fancy meals he can't eat, but it would be kind of mean…) I should take more time to make our meals special though.

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  2. Deanna Piercy says

    July 17, 2010 at 4:26 am

    Kids usually love candles at the dinner table. Even a simple meal tastes better by candlelight. 🙂

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  3. Joy says

    July 17, 2010 at 4:58 pm

    We tend to go back and forth. Some nights we spend dinner with the 4 of us at the table eating dinner, some nights we'll spend dinner, eating and watching a movie in the living room. I personally prefer the nights at the table. : ) I love sitting and talking with my boys. I find it to be pretty relaxing, and we definitely take longer then the average american family does I'd say.

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  4. Deanna Piercy says

    July 17, 2010 at 9:43 pm

    I think it's great for families with young children to eat at the table at least a few nights a week. It's pretty hard to teach table manners and how to behave at the table if kids rarely get the opportunity to experience it. I think this is part of the reason so many children behave poorly in restaurants. Good for you, Joy!

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